First of all, no one is unattractive.
A certain image of beauty is portrayed as if it is a standard to adhere to; a pressure that says you have to be a certain way to be attractive. This is simply not true. Beauty is within all of us.
The feeling of being unattractive often comes from having a low self-esteem. There are many reasons why these issues can develop. A lack of praise, for example, or a feeling of being unable to live up to the standards of parents or peers.
A Low Self Esteem Can Cause Feelings Of Unattractiveness
Generally speaking, a low self-esteem is caused by negative beliefs that you have about yourself. They can be rooted in early experiences, or created from social pressures, or stored in memory from negative experiences in recent years. Some people start to feel unattractive following a previous relationship, or from having a person in their life that made them feel worthless.
It is not you that is unattractive at all. It is the low self-esteem itself that is preventing you from finding a partner. You might make less effort to find someone to go out with, or become less receptive to the signals given off from people around you. There might be someone you know out there right now who would love to ask you out, but gets the vibe that you would say no.
Worse still, a low self-esteem can even cause you to feel a fear of being around people, a social anxiety, or even a feeling that you don’t deserve to be loved.
The bottom line when it comes to restoring your self-esteem, is that you have to love yourself. You have to get your esteem from within, and not from people around you. This might feel like a conflict, given that you want to find happiness by being with someone else, but you will only find that love if you first are able to love yourself.
Everyone Is Beautiful In Their Own Way
Each and every one of us is perfect the way we are. There is no point making comparisons to other people, and wanting to be like them; you are who you are. When you come to terms with yourself a unique beauty will shine outwardly, and then you will know that you are attractive, and that you can find a partner.
A low esteem is not an illness, and there is no perfect attractiveness to adhere to you. It is all perspective. You only have to realize your own beauty.
If you need help with your self-esteem, then you can talk to our expert emotional counselors. It can be useful to talk it out with someone, just to get a sense of how you are feeling, and how best to rebuild your confidence. A deep rooted lack of self-esteem can become a feeling of depression, if your esteem affects you to the point where you do not like to leave the house, or make social contact. If you need help with depression or any other serious psychological, speak to our psychologists today.