Shivram is a 28 year old senior analyst, working for a well-known multinational company in Delhi. He is very talented and is highly qualified. But in spite of being so intelligent, he just isn’t able to make friends easily, and is socially awkward around people. He always views things in a different manner and his mindset too differs from the rest of the crowd. But what he didn’t know, was that all the extra amount of talent and intelligence meant nothing when it came to building a social life, including making new friends or looking for a job change or a promotion.
For a successful social and professional life, it was very important for him to come out of his shell and work towards developing relationships with people. Relationship counselling experts claim that the percentage of intelligent people who are socially awkward is relatively very high, because the problem with such people are that they are always on the lookout for new information, but they don’t pay attention to hone the skills they already have. Shivram himself admits to the fact that he over thinks way too much. He says he over thinks to a point where he just psyches himself out to fit in a particular situation, it has however never worked for him.
Shivram has also faced major problems dealing with his fear and emotions, he always wanted to escape rather than dealing with an uncomfortable situation. He did not like facing a situation that would immobilize him. After reading about his story, you might realize that you or maybe a friend you know is on the same page as Shivram. Consider this to be a good sign if you are able to recognize your own problems and what stops you from moving ahead in life, be it socially or professionally, it means you are willing to change.
Shivram knew what his problems were but he could not think of ways on how to overcome it. He was not worried of other people judging him for what he was going through because he needed help. He did not know from where to start, so the first thing he did was to look for professional online psychologists. In due course of time, he started by changing his core personality and he tried not to “fix” his problems. He realized the more he had tried to fix his so called problems, the lesser progress he made. It took time and perseverance, but he learnt to be more confident and eventually built a social circle much more easily.
You don’t need to be the center of attention or be yappy all the time. Introverts and shy people, and have their own strengths. They are careful thinkers and are considered to be thoughtful people, but yes too much of it may have negative connotations on their social and professional life. Try your best to push yourself out of your comfort zone to make any kind of progress. Once you are successful in managing to overcome your shyness and introvert nature, you will definitely see a huge advantage as you will possess both intelligence and social skills required to be successful.